Teen substance use is often driven by pressure to fit in, and this can make it hard for a teen to resist peer pressure. As tempting as it can be to try the drugs your friends or acquaintances may be doing, the risks of substance use during adolescence aren’t worth the short-term benefits.
Learning to resist peer pressure can help you make better decisions, focus on what matters most, and prevent the consequences of teen substance use.
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Understanding Peer Pressure
Peer pressure to use alcohol or illicit drugs doesn’t always happen the way you see in movies or shows. There are several different kinds of peer pressure, and they’re often more subtle than you’d expect.
The first type is direct or spoken peer pressure, where a friend or peer directly tries to encourage you to try alcohol or drug use. This might mean handing you a beer, encouraging you to try smoking marijuana, or teasing you for not engaging in substance use.
The second form of peer pressure is indirect or unspoken peer pressure. This could include inviting you to a party where everyone is drinking or hearing that the popular group are all using drugs or alcohol.
This second type is less about feeling pressure from others and more about feeling the pressure within yourself. If you want to be more popular, you might feel that using drugs or alcohol can help you fit in with that group. If everyone at a party is drinking, it can feel alienating to be the person who isn’t.
Strategies to Resist Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is something that everyone, adults and teenagers alike, can feel from time to time. Learning to resist peer pressure is a process of deciding for yourself what is important, what is healthy, and what you want out of life, rather than imitating the behaviors of others.
Set Your Priorities
The simplest and most effective way to resist peer pressure is to have things in your life that are more important to you than substance use. This could include anything from:
- Doing well in sports
- Improving your school performance
- Music or other creative tasks
- Having meaningful friendships
Ask yourself honestly if drinking or drug use will help you achieve your goals, or only serve as an obstacle. If you have something in your life that you’re striving for, it’s easier to recognize that peer pressure can often just hold you back.
Find Friends Who Share Your Values
Peer pressure can be easily avoided if you surround yourself with friends who share your values and only have your best interests in mind. Real friends wouldn’t pressure you to do something you’re not comfortable with or encourage irresponsible behavior, particularly when they know what your goals in life are.
The people you surround yourself with shape you as a person. Surround yourself with caring people, and you will learn to become compassionate. Spend time with athletes, and you will grow to be more athletic. But surround yourself with people who use drugs, and you may find yourself with a substance use disorder.
Get Comfortable Setting Boundaries
Learning to set strong boundaries is a skill that can last you a lifetime. Setting boundaries is about more than “just saying no”, but rather a process of naming what you are and aren’t comfortable with and communicating these limits effectively.
For example, this might mean setting boundaries such as:
- “I don’t go to parties where people are drinking, it makes me feel uncomfortable.”
- “If you guys are going to smoke, I’m going to leave.”
- “No thanks, I don’t need alcohol to have a good time.”
It can be nerve-wracking to set boundaries at first, but once you get comfortable with setting them, resisting peer pressure becomes much easier.
Set an Example
Peer pressure works both ways. If your health and well-being are a priority for you, you can set a positive example for your peer group by showing others that it’s okay to not use drugs or alcohol.
It’s natural to look to the people around you for approval, but it’s important to recognize that people will look at you in the same way. Living a substance-free life is your choice, and having the confidence to express it can not only help you succeed in life but lift the people around you as well.
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